Should I stay?

Wife left me on Sunday in an arguement, then pretends nothing happened and wouldn't apologise. I eventually apologise to keep peace, but she is still ice cold, yet is talking, just not physical or ual, without my lead. She has drawn out some nasty stuff with personal shots which I retaliated with nasty things. We have agreed to go to counselling and I have apologised and offered my heart and forgiveness. She wants to stay in Limbo til counselling, but she is always in Limbo and breaks up with me all the time. Married for 8 years, 1 rugrat. Bleeding heart!